Identify the Trigger
We all have an angry green monster living inside of us. A monster that on occasion, rears its ugly head and causes all sorts of unrest. A few generations ago, this monster could easily be kept under control, surfacing only when things got really out of hand. However, with the change in time came a change in how we reacted to situations. Over the last few years, people have become more volatile. With work pressure increasing tenfold and literally no professional and personal life balance to boast about, we’re all on edge and very dangerously so. Which is why, people from this generation seems to suffer from sever anger management issues, more than we can be proud of. Whether someone cuts us off in traffic or when our deadline gets pushed up by two hours; whether our child refuses to eat on time or our best friend cancels on a plan at the last minute, we’re all hanging by a thread when it comes to losing our temper over small issues. And while expressing our feeling is healthy, reacting (or rather over reacting) unnecessarily, when there are better ways to handle the situation is not that great. In order to contain and control your inner Hulk, here are some simple and highly effective anger management tips that will help you tame your temper.
Identify the Trigger
Anger and irrationality are synonymous. When we’re angry we tend to turn a blind eye to all rational possibilities and we react without thinking twice. Realistically, what is important in such situations is to keep calm and identify the trigger, pin point the root cause of why a particular thing is making us angry in the first place. When we have the reason clear in our heads, it automatically becomes simpler to deal with it in the best way possible, which is not necessary through an uncontrolled outburst. By identifying the trigger before reacting you eliminate the possibility of regretting your actions later, before it’s too late to do anything about it.
Count to 10
When you’re angry, your mind starts behaving like it has been possessed by a demon. While showing intensity is good, letting it sweep you off your feet is not always the best way to go about handling things. When you’re angry, one of the first things that you should do is calm down your mind. Take a deep breath and slowly count to 10. This methodical act of counting numbers essentially allows the rational part of your mind to catch up with your feelings and once you start thinking straight you’ll feel your anger ebbing away. If the first time round doesn’t work, then count again and again and go on for however many times it takes to get yourself back into control.
Own Your Emotions
Letting your emotions get the better of you is never a good thing, more so when you’re angry. A large part of anger management involves getting in control of your emotions, owning them and not letting them get the better of you. When you feel your anger surging, one of the best things to do is identify the conflicting emotion and controlling them. Letting your frustration build almost guarantees in an uncontrolled outburst. Once you manage to ease your emotions and they aren’t as intense, you’ll be able to address the problem at hand in a non-confrontational way.
Remember childhood and time-out? Who would have thought that a potentially embarrassing moment back then would ultimately come to have such significance? When we are confronted with situations that aggravates us, the best thing to do is distance ourselves from it. When you’re angry you get irritated and when you’re irritated, you throw good judgement out the window and when you throw good sense out the window you lose control of yourself. At the end of the day, a few moments of peace and quiet is all that you need to get yourself back on track when you’re feeling angry.
Smile & Wave
The one thing that the Penguins of Madagascar taught us, is to smile and wave! Transcending and rising above the situation that causes you to get angry is one of the best ways to deal with it. Taking the high road might be difficult but it is definitely one of the best things you can do when it comes to anger management. People talk, that’s what they do and as evolved, mature individuals, it is our prerogative to focus on what we can do rather than focus on what was done and if we fail at arriving at a plausible conclusion then the next best thing to do is ignore! Remember, getting hot and bothered about something that doesn’t deserve that kind of attention can never do you any good, instead smile & wave and think to yourself that this too shall pass.
So, the next time you feel like unleashing your inner Hulk, take a deep breath, go to your happy place and take control of your emotions before they take control of you!